Anyway, I'm doing my best to utilize every last bit of my stress-coping strategies so I don't let the family drama surrounding my brother consume my own happiness. It feels a little bit wrong on some level to try to be happy when things are going so wrong, and it's because I've got this thing where I think if I'm not miserable too, it means I don't care. And that's not really fair to myself. So I'm trying my best to not feel guilty over wanting to be happy in spite of what is happening with him. It's kind of messed up that we feel bad for not wallowing in the misery of others, isn't it?
On a completely different topic now, I'm checking in with everyone who is doing the Curated Closet with me (click here to buy the book, and here for the workbook if you want to join in). We should be finishing out our prep work of logging outfits, and looking for fashion inspiration now! And my favorite part, where we get to start looking for patterns and analyzing it all.
I do like the part where they talk about how you shouldn't focus too much on fashion typology (even though I'm a hypocrite and totally subscribe to a few of those), like body types (if you're a pear-shaped woman, you have to wear this, not that), or that you're limited in colors or what styles "flatter you". I mean, I guess I don't actually follow any system 100% anyway, because I'm just not a fan of one-size-fits-all, so it's a relief to be told that's okay, even if I already tell myself that anyway. I really do think I look great in certain non-T4 colors, and that some of the ones I'm supposed to be able to wear, really are not my favorite, at all. Honestly, I'll always like a blush pink over a neon pink any day of the week. And just TRY to take my classic Burberry trench from me, I DARE YOU.
I think being able to see what the common themes, structures, colors, fit, and how the items are styled, is pretty important. It might not even be obvious until you look at ALL of the things you're drawn to. I tend to like outfits with cobalt blue paired with black and white for example. I like red pants. There were multiple outfits with red pants (and these pants were all trouser pants). There were a surprising amount of outfits with ripped/distressed denim, which is odd to me because I really dislike the IDEA of buying craptastic destroyed pants (and it feels a bit 90s grunge to me, and I've already been there, done that), but maybe I need to revisit that since clearly I like how it looks in an outfit.
And that's what I'll get to do this next week: EXPERIMENT.
I'll go try on things like red pants, pleated skirts, distressed jeans, and all the other things I noted in the workbook. I'll hit up a mall department store and just put together some outfits to try on in the dressing room, take lots of photos, and share my results. I expect some of these to be outfit fails, and some of it to be "I like how this looks, just not on me" and some "Damn, I need to buy these" thrown in there. I have a LOT of notes I took about what patterns I saw in my collection of fashion inspiration photos. Some of them are redundant with things I already own, but some of them are definitely things I don't even kind of own, so maybe there are still spaces outside of my comfort zone that I haven't yet explored.
Pray for me. I'll be going to a mall in the middle of December.