Let's talk about Dressing Your Truth. We'll start with my Before and After photos which were shared on the official Facebook page. (I will admit that even though I consented to allowing the DYT staff to use my images, I was also embarrassed by the attention, even though it was positive)
But an eye-opening moment for me was just recently, shortly before I discovered Dressing Your Truth, when I sat in a restaurant for nearly 50 minutes, and not a single member of the wait staff ever attended to me. I was THAT ignorable. I felt small and insignificant. They didn't even notice when I got up and left. And this was the same pub where they carded me consistently for nearly a year. It was sobering. (Literally. As I didn't get to order a damn beer).
There was an immediate, noticeable difference in how the staff treated me after I started dressing my truth. I AM SEEN NOW. My presence does not go ignored.
Every now and then someone will imply that I am not really a Type 4 (due to stereotypes that exist regarding anyone who is a "rational" type. I'm an INTJ and I find that the stereotypes for both INTJs and Type 4s tend to overlap). For example, not acting like a robot or like Spock. We do in fact have feelings, people, and aren't (always) heartless assholes. Type 4s behaviors are often diagnosed as "disorders", which doesn't help.
But, stereotypes aside, here is a photo of me dressed in all of the four types of Dressing Your Truth (or DYT for short). I had to take a lot of photos in each type to get a passable photo that didn't look outright awful, but for Type 4, I only needed ONE shot and it was perfect. I am literally more photogenic now, dressed in my proper type.
Red is a color I admit I always thought I looked terrible in.
I have no idea why I thought that, because when I put it on, I was shocked at how perfectly suited it was for me. Seriously, who is going to tell me NOW that I'm not really a Type 4? Step off, I didn't ask you anyway.
She indirectly confirmed my type as being 4 when I had her autograph my color card instead of a book because I only had her e-books, not physical copies, and she mentioned that "you type 4s tend to do that" (buy digital books instead of physical).
Not that I asked for Carol's opinion either. But people are less likely to argue with HER than me, being the Ultimate Overlord of Energy Profiling and all.
I don't think it would have mattered if she told me I am a different type. I'd be all snarky like, "Oh, I didn't realize I asked you for your opinion. Now I have to tell you how wrong you are. Stand there and be wrong, Carol. Because you are. Super wrong. How does it feel to be so wrong?"
I would say that photo is pretty true to how I am in social situations. I'm clearly having a good time and smiling. But over there... in the back... away from the crowd... standing still.
Now I'm going to go into my facial features and how they are Type 4. This photo to the left is me without any make-up. I have an overall symmetry, a straight nose bridge, reflective skin, my eyes are set on a straight line, my eyebrows don't have a lot of movement (if you draw a line from the beginning and end of my brows, it would be straight). Even the bottom of my nose is straight. You can't see it because of how my hair is styled, but I also have a widow's peak in the exact center of my forehead, and my cheek bone is parallel to my jawline. Even my teeth are naturally very very straight. I've had multiple dentists assume I had braces, and they were very shocked to find out I hadn't.
Granted, I also have my secondary 1 playing out in my features, which was why I had a hard time in the beginning with my type. I have apple cheeks when I smile, an overall youthfulness, a rounder quality to my face, and freckles. I also like to smile with my teeth showing. And I tried to live like a Type 1 when I was in college. I wanted to have friends and be liked, and sadly, it worked. People responded well to that painfully contrived version of myself, while I spiraled quickly into what became some of the most depressed, dark years of my life. Not being true to who I am affected my health profoundly. IT ISN'T JUST ABOUT CLOTHES!
I hope this post is helpful for someone who isn't sure if they're Type 4, or are specifically struggling with the Type 1/Type4 combo (we tend to be a confused bunch). And if you're not familiar with the system, I highly recommend you check it out HERE. Even if you ultimately think it's all silly (Carol uses some hippie-dippie language, and often references a higher power, god, angels, etc. and that can be off-putting if you are also atheist). But I like the rules and structure. I no longer feel like I'm floundering in a closet full of fugly clothing, and I think I'm finally presenting myself to the world as the authoritative, logical, petite powerhouse that I am. And I look better now at 33 than I ever did as a teen or 20-something.