First off, I want to point out that the color of that top is light pink with metallic silver thread woven throughout, and it didn't capture very well on screen. That matters because I'm going to talk about the Yin and Yang of my outfit, and how important it is to my personal style to make sure I'm mixing the right amount of Feminine versus Masculine in my outfits. It's not enough to just own the right INDIVIDUAL pieces... I've had to really learn how to pair them correctly to fit ME.
Here are the items I wore:
- Top: Black and White checkered button down by Tinsel (from Stitch Fix)
- Top: Boxy pink metallic t-shirt from Forever 21
- Bottom: Ultra dark wash skinny jeans by Rag & Bone
- Shoes: faux leather black moto boots by American Rag (from Macy's)
- Accessories: gunmetal eyeglasses necklace from my own online store (everything is out of stock currently)
In the DYT group, we've been talking about the right mix of Yin and Yang in our outfits (with Yin being more of what we would traditionally call "feminine" and Yang being more of what we would traditionally call "masculine"), and for me personally, I need for it be basically 50/50, which can be tricky. (Everything is always 50/50. Half Asian, Half White, Half Yin, Half Yang, Half Good at Writing Code, Half Assed at Parenting...). A lot of this probably only makes sense in the context of that group, but here goes anyway!
We'll start with the buffalo check top. It's got some clearly masculine design lines (collar, button down style, longer length), but the fabric itself is very light weight, and rolling the sleeves up takes some of that hardness off. The stark black and white high contrast pattern makes it more Yang than Yin though, overall.
The metallic tshirt layered over it is a a bit more Yin than Yang though, which is why I think it works well. The style of the top is a big boxy (which is Yang) and the top is a rough textured knit (also Yang), but there is no doubting the girly-foofiness of the top. That hits you in the face first! It's pink and sparkly. Clearly Yin!
I consider the pants to be a neutral, neither yin nor yang, because I mean, they're very basic pants. Darkwash skinny jeans.
The shoes though are pretty Yang. They're black faux leather moto boots. Accessories are a great way to bring in whatever extra element your outfit lacks.
The necklace is also a toss-up for me. I think that being a larger motif, and styling it in a way that it has high contrast against the top, makes it a bit Yang in this outfit. But it's also got a quirky playfulness, which is a bit Yin. I'd say it's a perfect 50/50 piece and probably why it's one of my favorites.
Let's not forget our hair and makeup though! Those are accessories as well!
As for hair, I tend to let it do whatever it wants. It's messy and textured, and I'm going to call that Yang. I get away with it by the aforementioned Yinny face.
When I wear makeup, I do make sure I strike that perfect balance there too. If I go with a big bold loud lipcolor (Yang), my eye makeup will be minimal (Yin). Today, I went a little heavy and darker with the eye makeup and then kept my lips neutral and glossy. Balance!
Now, there ARE times when going heavier and more dramatic on the makeup can work, and that depends on the outfit. If I'm wearing something really light and girly and my outfit is leaning very Yin, I can balance it out with a more Yang hairstyle or more Yang makeup, or just pairing it with the Yangiest shoes or outerwear or handbag I own. It's not just about the clothing on your body!
For example, with today's outfit, if I had worn round-toed ballet flats instead of moto boots, I'd probably feel a bit off and swap out my pants for my black leather pair, to bring that Yang back in. Or opt for a lipcolor like burgundy. Or swap out for an edgier, more dramatic necklace. Things like that.
Because this is ME we're talking, I actually went and broke down my outfit and tallied up the Yin and Yang of everything with checkboxes, and they both came out with perfectly even scores. I do not recommend this method, by the way. Because I liked my outfit, but if those scores were like 7 Yin versus 8 Yang, I'd be BOTHERED and have to start over because it wasn't exact. So don't do that. Just step back and take it in OVERALL, and only bother with the details if you're outfit is feeling off. Figure out WHERE you can fix it. (And not everyone needs a 50/50 balance. Some people need majority Yin or majority Yang. Since I need an even mix of both, it means there are a lot more things I can buy because it really just comes down to styling and how I pair my items, whereas someone who needs Yang Yang Yang would avoid way more of the girly foofy things than I do).
If you're reading this and wondering what on earth I've been prattling on about, here's a link to the DYT post I'm referencing, and you can find info on the Dressing Your Truth color system in general over there (if you're curious, I am a confirmed Type 4 Secondary 1, but clearly have no problems not following ALL the rules in the system. You will pry my leopard print Manolo Blahniks from my cold Type 4 hands). I also incorporate "Gamine" style into my wardrobe as I feel DYT doesn't do enough to address body type/body shape differences.
I hope my DYT friends found this post helpful, and my other readers weren't feeling too "WTF" about it! I mostly try to keep my posts generic enough to not alienate anyone, but I wanted to evaluate this whole Yin Yang thing and see how it actually worked out for me, and I think there's definitely something to it.
See you tomorrow everyone!