One of the highlights of the event was being able to meet the Type 4 beauty experts, as none of them went on tour with Carol during her "Carol Tour" two years ago.
*Actually, please don't, I'm a 98 lb. person and you will break me like a kit-kat bar.
And back to Type 4 magic, I'm going to share the tips that were given during the keynote address and to us when we separated into groups for each type. The theme for us was "Get Grounded", and here are my main take-aways from that:
- Stop apologizing for things.
- When Carol used to offer paid confirmations of type, 99% of her clients were Type 4/1s, like me.
- Stop using the word "struggle". Erase it from my vocabulary. Replace it with "developing" or "I am still learning to..."
- Living my truth is a process, not an arrival.
- Set the intention that I'll be open to insights about myself.
- Only speak positively about myself.
- Give as many compliments as I can.
- HELP EACH OTHER.
- Answers don't always come from figuring things out; sometimes the answer simply presents itself.
- We complicate easy systems.
- The mind is a trainable tool, with daily practice. Decide what is WORTH occupying space in my mind.
- Instead of trying to solve things, put ATTENTION to it instead.
- Pick a base color (it does NOT have to be black/white/navy)
- Add an accent (it can be color, pattern, or texture)
- Add 3 points of interest: 1 statement, and 2 supporting.
Her tips for bringing in your secondary is to make sure that the base is true to Type 4 style, and to bring only 1 or 2 secondary influences (for me as a Secondary 1, this could be animation, or bling/sparkle).
Since this is ME we're talking about, I'm probably just going to ignore all of those guidelines. I think following rules like that is what makes a lot of Type 4 outfits look dreadfully boring and expected. If my menopausal fundamentalist mother would approve, I don't want to wear it. If I can visual her gasping in horror, all "Omana! Aaaaiiiiii..." then it's a win. But I would rather look horrid than look boring. I would rather take a risk and lose, than wear the typical Type 4 "uniform" (we all know what those look like...for example, striped shirt, cardigan or blazer, jeans or colored pants. Red lipstick. Zzzzzzzzz...)
First, we wrote down judgments that we have of ourselves or think that others have of us. It was easy to write them. I wrote down things that people have said or I have picked up on throughout my life.
- That I'm childish and immature.
- That I am conceited and think I'm better than other people.
- I don't fit in; I don't belong.
- I'm trying too hard.
- I am inherently unlikable.
For the second part, we were supposed to take each statement and flip it; turn it into something positive. I was able to do it with almost all of them...
- That I'm child and immature = I maintain a positive outlook and fresh perspective.
- That I am conceited and think I'm better than other people = I no longer compare myself to others and I like who I am. I am confident and people recognize that in me.
- I don't fit in; I don't belong = I am too unique to fit into a mold.
- I'm trying too hard = I put effort into the things I care about, and it shows.
- I am inherently unlikable = ...???
I have nothing for that. I don't know how to rewrite that. I accept so many of my so-called flaws as my strengths, but I know that others don't. It seems like people have to really really try to like me, that it requires effort and doesn't come naturally. They have to decide to like me and then commit, in spite of me being me.
Maybe #5 should be "I am an acquired taste", ha!
At the end of it all, Carol actually personally acknowledged the fashion risks I took and that I was inspirational and she even remembered me from my post about my damaged color card (which ended up causing a rules change to the new Lifestyle group, long story, but figures I can't even post a joke without it turning into a big huge deal that gets the admins involved, right?), and I actually brought that damaged color card with me to have her sign it! I framed it with the other small (also damaged) mini-color-card from the first time I met her. The mini card accidentally went through the wash. Man, I am the worst Type 4, with all my damaged color cards! I'm supposed to be better at this!
I'm sure you're tired of hearing about this event, but don't worry, this is the final post in this series, and tomorrow, we are back to our regularly scheduled programming. As always, it's nice to see newcomers here and I'd love to see your comments because I KNOW YOU'RE THERE, Google analytics tells me so! Say hi, introduce yourself, stalk me on Instagram, whatever. I've also got the still patheti-sad, barebones Facebook page up, and a patheti-sadder Twitter, but hey, they exist, and they're easy to find. Instagram and Twitter are @mostlypetiteme (who would have guessed), and the Facebook page is www.facebook.com/mostlypetiteme (see? super easy). I am also on Youtube where most of you have found me, also as Mostly Petite Me, but as you can see, I do most of my content here on the blog, and the videos from Youtube are all here too (you can even just click "Videos" off on the side underneath my profile and other links, and it will take you to all my posts containing those videos). For those of you just finding me, I only post Monday-Friday because a girl needs a day off or two! I am making it a point to vary my content, but you can expect Outfit of the Day posts, product reviews (some sponsored, some not), throwback photos of my fashion disasters, good deals I find on clothing and accessories, and sometimes just me ranting about life.
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