Hey everyone! Minor but disruptive medical issue has come up, I will be stepping away from the blog and social media until May 1st. Don't worry, I'm okay! See you then!
Behind the scenes, I have been, for the past month, orchestrating a fundraising event for the nonprofit Girls Who Code, which provides laptops, afterschool clubs, and summer programs for girls to learn computer science (all free, by the way, and for girls between grades 3-12).
There were a lot of obstacles in the way, and I thought for sure today would be the day I could announce it, and show the items that would be sold to raise funds for the nonprofit, and honestly, I am just so frustrated that this hasn't gotten off the ground yet, for reasons like shipping being delayed, and important communications being filtered out into my "junk" folder for no reason (from people that are in my contacts!), and so, instead of going live to announce this fundraiser that is so personally important to me, I have decided to take the day off for some much needed self-care. Okay, I basically rage-quit this entire day. But let's call it self-care. If it involves a sauna, then it counts as self-care.
Those of you from the Dressing Your Truth Type 4 community know this question well: "How do I dress for spring and summer as a Type 4?" Type 4 is similar to a "winter" coloring in other fashion programs. Obviously our colors are really great to find during winter. But how can we still look "springish" without just resorting to our staple black and white? Easy! Resort to navy! (no, really, navy is a great alternative in warmer months to not look quite so much like we're dressed for a funeral).
And pick some classic pieces. Nautical themes are very spring and summer, and yeah, it can be a little bit on the "preppy" side, but I'll talk about how to de-prep-ify it further down.
If black eyeliner feels a little too heavy for you personally, or you just want something a little bit lighter, fresh, and modern for spring... pick white!
Hey everyone, I know this video is going up a little bit later than I normally put it up (even for Friday, where it does take me longer to upload, so posts on Friday generally don't go live until the afternoon). But this is late even for me, and I can go ahead and insert all the usual whining about internet problems and how much my provider sucks, but who cares, let's move on!
In the video I'll cover everything from shoes being too large, to holes in your clothing, to hiding that "boob gap" in your button-up shirt!
You guys are getting a bonus post from me on the blog, containing a very important life hack for those of us with dubious moral integrity and no desire to financially martyr ourselves for our mind-numbingly boring civic responsibilities... Weaseling out of jury duty.
It is official; I have been excused from jury duty. Whew!
Honestly, I can not afford to take off for endless amounts of days since all of my income right now is being generated online, by only me. I don't have staff; I am self-employed. Without me, the whole ship sinks. And that ship also 100000% requires internet access, by the way.
My husband, in a similar position years back, was still forced into jury duty anyway, as King County decided financial hardship and inability to do things like, oh, pay our mortgage or feed our 4 kids, was not a good enough reason. So I already knew that "financial hardship" or explaining the complete loss of income, wasn't going to work.
Now that everything is signed and done, I am excited to announce some good personal news! My husband got a job that isn't soul-crushingly awful, and he gets to work from home. As someone who also works from home, this means I once again get to have my annoying office mate back!
I've also decided in my own career move that I am going to work on a couple of my own coding projects that I haven't had the time for, and I'm taking a pretty hefty sabbatical to do so. I have been off-and-on coding for my entire career anyway, with things like 5 weeks off thrown in just because of burn out, and even though I feel a lot of pressure to "represent women" in STEM, and to "represent women of color" and "represent immigrants" and the "American Dream" and the narrow definitions of success that fall under that umbrella... I know that if I don't create something of my own, I will regret it always, and I am in the financial position to tighten my belt a little, and work for just ME.
We've all done it. That horrifying, slow-motion drop of our favorite palette, or new pressed powder. And then it is SHATTERED, and it's never quite the same and we try to use it anyway, give up, and toss it.
Here is a really EASY way to save some money by NOT having to rebuy your makeup if it gets busted up. All you'll need is some sort of tool for mixing, a metal pan (you can reuse the pan that the item came with, or if it's bent, buy a new pan from Amazon HERE), rubbing alcohol, a coin, and some books (or something else heavy that you can set on top of your powder).
Not quite sure where to start when it comes to wearing patterns together? Follow these 2 simple rules to nail it every time!
Good afternoon from the Pacific Northwest where it's strangely sunny and I am suspicious and don't trust it and I'm pretty sure it's a trap somehow.
It has been brought to my attention that Friday's post did NOT go up (it was auto-scheduled, and when will I learn that the auto-scheduler doesn't cooperate with me?), so I'll get that up tomorrow, because today, I am filing an amendment to my tax return. At least the amendment is in my favor as opposed to meaning I'll be writing a check to the IRS.
Before I underwent multiple eye surgeries for multiple eye problems, I used to wear really thick glasses. I wasn't just myopic; I was legally blind without my glasses (and growing up poor, I couldn't always afford glasses, by the way, so I learned how get around with 20/300 vision). One of the fun things that happens with glasses for the extremely near-sighted, is that the way the glass is curved, whatever is behind it is seen as SMALLER than it is. And the higher the curvature, the smaller it shrinks. And you can probably guess that the curvature of my glasses was not a small number.
And the things behind my glasses that shrank behind the curvature, were my EYES.
I was unable to wear contacts until I was in college, because they had finally advanced enough for people like me to use them, and I remember just staring at my face in the mirror, in shock, because I felt like I hadn't really ever seen myself accurate for my entire life.
I said to my sister, "I have ENORMOUS GIGANTIC COW EYES. These things are HUGE. Have they ALWAYS been this huge?!" In comparison to how they looked with my glasses on, my eyes seemed ridiculously large, and like they were not really mine.
Even though I'm 35 now, I still have moments where I think, "Dang, my eyeballs are freakin' gigantic." (Everyone says this sometimes, right?... right?)
The other day, I decided to do my eyemakeup in a way that is really popular with the Asian community. We tend to have hooded eyes or monolids, and having BIG EYES is a very desirable trait, along with an "eyelid crease" (the majority of Korean women just go get it done SURGICALLY, via blepharoplasty).
Cutting the crease is a technique you can do to create an illusion of an eyelid crease and larger eyes. I chose white and a purpley-magenta color.
With the weather warming up (kind of, we got some snow yesterday and a ton of hail, and a 50% chance of snow this morning), a lot of people, women especially, are worried about having that "beach body" and losing weight, FAST.
I know it's easy for ME to say, "Hey, chill, don't worry about it", because I am thin.
But one of the things I get asked frequently is "How did you lose the baby weight?" (I have 4 kids after all, and I had them all back-to-back). Or "What is your secret?"
I don't have a secret.
And people seem GENUINELY DISAPPOINTED by that.
People want to hear "I eliminated carbs or sugar entirely" or "I only eat these 8 specific types of kale now" or "I don't eat after 4pm" or "I go on weird shitty detoxes where I pretend I'm not just abusing laxatives like a college girl with an eating disorder, because taking a shit ton of laxatives is literally a behavior associated with eating disorders."
No. I'm old school and use common sense.
I don't eliminate entire categories of food. I don't deprive myself of treats. I drink wine and alcohol on occasion. I even eat meat and things that... dun dun duuuuun... AREN'T ORGANIC.
I simply eat in moderation. I don't overstuff myself. I neither starve nor binge. I keep a balanced view of food. Nothing is forbidden, and I don't attach higher morality to things like quinoa salads. I stay active in general (sometimes that means running a marathon, other times that means walking 4 blocks to the post office instead of driving).
Tracy is a sometimes-working software engineer, all-the-time mother and wife, long-distance runner, biracial, shoe-loving, multi-lingual, world traveling, wannabe fashionista who drinks entirely too much coffee. She lives in the Seattle area and enjoys making babies and judging people.
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