Today, I want to talk about New Year's Resolutions. Do you participate in this tradition? Do you write out a huge ambitious list or just a few key items? Do you find you generally reach your goals, or do you write down the same things year after year, knowing you probably won't succeed?
I tend to be the ambitious list-maker. And I can't recall a single goal I did not check off the list.
But it's exhausting. I don't like to fail at anything, and I take my New Year's resolutions very very seriously. I mean, I've accomplished a lot, to the point where I don't even know what goals I have LEFT to write. I know that sounds a lot like I'm bragging, but I'm just trying to emphasize how I cram so much "improvement" into the year that I don't even have things left to improve and I just get really, really TIRED. To the point where I'm not sure I'm actually a better PERSON. I just improved those specific things on the list, or reached those specific goals, but at what personal cost?
For me, I have decided that 2018 is my year for "Adventure". I will take more risks. I will be less cautious and withdrawn. I will do more and see more with my family. At the end of it all, I want my kids to remember the adventures we had, the places we've seen, the things we tried together, our travels. That is the intention I am setting for 2018.
Instead of a specific set of goals that are clearly defined and quantifiable, I am doing something that is far more difficult for me personally, which is a vague, almost generic intention. I know that goals like that are a challenge for me. I like structured goals. But because it's hard, I especially should do it. I don't back down from challenges; in fact, I am fueled by it. But any specific goals I set, which I haven't by the way, I have decided must fit in to the broader theme of Adventure. So far, it's simple stuff like "Buy my brother a passport", and "Take a family trip". These things will all require budgeting and planning on my part, which I excel at, so even though the Adventure theme may be really vague, the specifics of how to make those happen has concrete steps.
This past year was quite possibly one of the worst years of my entire life with my marriage, depression, personal life, career, finances, racism, sexism, politics, freaking LICE... I am DONE. 2017 can go die in a fire. I am ready for anything and everything the next year has to offer because it can not possibly be worse unless someone dies. Well, not true. If my kids' racist, sexist, homophobe (wealthy) great grandfather dies (finally), I'd be cool with it. His Bigotry Bucks (tm) and KKKash (tm) can go straight into my mixed-race kids' college funds, thanks. But nobody else is allowed to die. Just that guy. Plus he's like 187 years old if I had to guess, and has clearly overstayed his welcome. Just sayin'.
What are your goals this upcoming year? Does the idea of a theme appeal to you?